Sacrificing Families on the Altar of Feminism

I’ve often lamented that I should have been a young mom in the 1940s and 1950s—back in the day when it was the norm for women to relish staying home to raise their children, when women took pride in keeping the home and providing a home-cooked meal at the end of every day, when families sat down around the dinner table to discuss whatever the topic of conversation might be.

Unfortunately, in our day this way of life is more of a dream than a reality. Instead of being the norm, those of us who have chosen this lifestyle are now in the minority and oftentimes looked down upon. The reason? I believe it’s feminism. I’m not talking about the raging protesters who wear body-part costumes and take to the streets. I’m talking about a subtle movement that has taken root in the church, in those of us who are discontented with life as God designed it to be. In those of us who desire to see our identity in more than who we are in Christ.

You see, in our quest for more money, stuff, identity, we have ultimately ended up with less. Less of what matters. Gone are the days when we were satisfied with simple. Feminism has crept in subtly over the decades. Like a seed that’s planted, the more it has been fed and watered, the bigger and stronger it has grown, until one day it will be a giant tree that isn’t going anywhere unless it’s cut down.

Society has taught us, and in turn we are teaching our children, that success is measured by what we have, how big our houses are, how new our cars are, what brand of clothes and shoes we wear. That somehow if we are only mere homemakers then we are repressed, and not reaching our potential.  Because we are under a barrage of feminist ideas that inundate us every day, we are conditioned to think we are somehow advancing, making strides as women—and maybe we are on a personal level. But take a look at the generation we are raising.

Anti-depressant usage is up 65 percent over the last fifteen years, and women are being treated for it at twice the rate men are. ADD drugs are being administered to children at an alarming rate. Children are disrespectful, ungrateful, overindulged. One in three children are overweight or obese—a condition we have seen accelerate dramatically in the last thirty years. We often throw blame for this at the introduction of convenience food or the drive through. But I have to ask, why is there a demand for such food? As women we either no longer have time to cook real meals, or we are so tired that it’s much easier to grab a “4 for $4” and call it good. Divorce is now at an all-time high; 50 percent of marriages now end in divorce. Pornography addiction is out of control, and for that we blame the ease of access to it. Things are a mess, people!

Might I suggest that if we who are women spent more time cultivating and feeding our homes and marriages instead of our careers, these statistics may not be quite as dramatic?

Women were designed beautifully to cultivate and nurture, to cultivate our homes and nurture our families—not to conquer the world, corporate or otherwise. There, I said it! I know it won’t be popular, but I said it anyway. Proverbs 31 is familiar to many of us, and we often use it as justification for work outside the home. I believe we are to be workers; we are to put our hands to things that will benefit our families. But not at the expense of our families.

We have somehow believed that if we are not breadwinners, we are less than. Proverbs 31 clearly describes a woman who is respected and revered, a woman who is looked to for wisdom and advice, a woman whose children bless and praise her. She is also a woman who cooks for her family, who opens her home for ministry and her arms to the poor. Just because a woman’s “job” is different from that of a man does not make her less than, just different from.

I understand that some women have no choice but to work. I believe many that do would rather be home. Scripture tells us that God looks at the heart, and sometimes our situation, in spite of our best effort, is beyond our control. As mothers, we do what we have to for our children. You may be the only source of provision for your family, and if that’s the case, may God bless you and provide abundantly!

I believe that as a result of our striving to be seen as equals, we have lost our uniqueness as women. Good men are becoming afraid to pay a woman a polite compliment. Many no longer give up their seats or open doors for women because their motives may be questioned. It’s a sad state of affairs. I am raising my boys to become real men. Godly men. Men who see being providers, protectors, leaders in their homes as a true calling. I am raising my daughter to value her femininity and future womanhood. Real “girl power” comes when we recognize the amazing opportunity we have as women to fulfill a calling that only we can fulfill: to raise our children and nurture our marriages as only we can.

Lord, let true feminism be alive and well in our homes and families. Help our focus to be where it needs to be—on the eternal and not the temporal. Forgive us for buying into the lie that we need to be more than what You’ve intended us to be. Thank You for womanhood and the tremendous blessing it is. Help us to be different from the culture around us! Amen.

Cinnamon Coffee Cake

This coffee cake has been in my arsenal for a LONG time!! I was making this before I had children. It is still a favorite today. My kids often ask for it as a Saturday breakfast treat. It’s moist and flavorful. There is never much left!


Ingredients: Cake

  • 1C softened butter
  • 1C sugar
  • 2 eggs
  • 3C flour
  • 1/2t salt
  • 3t baking powder
  • 1C milk
  • 1t vanilla

Cinnamon layer:

  • 1 1/3C brown sugar
  • 1/2 melted butter
  • 2t cinnamon

How to:

Cream together butter and sugar. Add eggs and vanilla. Combine dry ingredients in a separate bowl. While mixer is running add flour and milk alternately. Mix until just combined. Spread into a 9×13 pan.

Cinnamon layer:

Melt butter, add to brown sugar and cinnamon. Pour over the surface of the batter. With a knife swirl in the cinnamon mixture until evenly distributed throughout the batter. Bake uncovered at 350 for 35-45 minutes. Until lightly golden and set.



Hawaiian Chicken

hawiaan chicken

We all long to make nutritious meals for our family, but with busy kids time is not always in abundance! Hawaiian Chicken is a great make ahead or freezer dish for those busy week nights. My kids love this recipe. Serve it along with rice or salad.

4lbs Skinless chicken thighs
1/2C honey
1/2C soy sauce
3T ketchup
2t ginger powder or fresh ginger
1t garlic powder or fresh garlic
1/4C green onions
1T Sesame seeds

How to:
Combine all ingredients. Pour over chicken either in a pan or gallon Ziploc bag. Marinade overnight.

Bake uncovered at 375 for 1hr.

Grilled Fish Tacos


A lighter and healthier alternative to the run of the mill taco! You’ll be surprised at how your kids gobble these up!


  • 2 pound white flaky fish such as cod, talapia or mahi mahi or orata
  • 1/2 cup vegetable oil
  • 2 limes, juiced
  • 2 tablespoons ancho chili powder
  • 2 jalapeno, coarsely chopped
  • 1/2 cup chopped fresh cilantro leaves
  • 16 flour tortillas


  • Shredded white cabbage
  • Guacamole
  • Hot sauce
  • Sour cream
  • Thinly sliced red onion
  • Thinly sliced green onion
  • Chopped cilantro leaves


Preheat grill to medium-high heat. Place fish in a medium size dish. Whisk together the oil, lime juice, ancho, jalapeno, and cilantro and pour over the fish. Let marinate for 15 to 20 minutes.

Remove the fish from the marinade place onto a hot grill or pan with a little oil. Grill the fish for 4 minutes on the first side and then flip for 30 seconds and remove. Let rest for 5 minutes then flake the fish with a fork.

Place the tortillas on the grill and grill for 20 seconds. Divide the fish among the tortillas and garnish with any or all of the garnishes. Makes 6-8 servings

Crock Pot Split Pea & Ham Soup

I LOVE soup! I LOVE my crock pot! To me soup and crock pots are a marriage made in heaven; a gift to us from God! Here is a delicious, no fuss soup for any night of the week.

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7-8 cups water (I use half water half chicken stock)
1 (16 ounce) package dried split peas, rinsed and sorted
salt & pepper to taste
1 bay leaf
pinch dried thyme
3 medium carrots, cut into 1/4 inch slices (1 1/2 Cups)
2 stalks celery, finely chopped (1 Cup)
1 medium onion, chopped (1/2 cup)
2T butter
1 ham bone or 1-2lbs cubed ham
1/2 – 1 cup half and half or heavy whipping cream (optional)

How to:
Mix all ingredients except the cream in 5qt crock pot.
Cover and cook on low heat 7-8 hrs or on high heat 5-6 hours until peas are tender. If using ham bone remove it from cooker; place on cutting board. Pull meat from bones, using 2 forks; discard bones and skin.
Stir ham into soup. Stir in cream
Stir well before serving.

BBQ Meatballs

BBQ meatballsThe best meatballs EVER! I could make these with my eyes closed, and they never receive anything but rave reviews. Make them for dinner one night and  then use the left overs for meatball sandwiches for lunch the next day!






  • 3lbs ground beef
  • 1 can (12oz) evaporated milk
  • 1C oatmeal
  • 1C breadcrumbs
  • 2 eggs
  • 1/2C chopped onion
  • 1/2t garlic powder
  • 2t salt
  • 1/2t pepper
  • 2t chili powder


  • 2C ketchup
  • 1C brown sugar
  • 1/2t liquid smoke
  • 1/2t garlic powder
  • 1/4c chopped onion

How To:

Meatballs – Combine all meatball ingredients in a large bowl, and mix well. I use my hands! Shape into 1-2″ balls and place in a heatproof pan. Depending on how big your meatballs are will determine how many pans or what size you use. I usually get 2 9×13 pans out of this recipe.

In a separate bowl mix the sauce ingredients and pour over the meatballs. Bake at 350 for 30-40 minutes.


Quick & Easy Apple Rolls

apple rolls

These Apple Rolls are perfect for a breakfast or brunch. It’s ok to take a little help from the store! They are quick, easy and delicious!

1 large Granny Smith apple (peeled and finely chopped)
3/4 C chopped walnuts (optional)
1/2 C brown sugar
3 tubes 8 count cinnamon rolls
1/2 t cinnamon

How to:
Preheat the oven to 400 degrees F. Grease 2 muffin tins

Peel and finely chop the apples.

In a medium bowl stir together the diced apples with the walnuts and brown sugar.

Divide the apple mixture evenly into the muffin tin. Put cinnamon buns, cinnamon side down, on top of the apple mixture. Put the muffin tin on a baking sheet and bake until the tops are golden brown, about 8 to 10 minutes.

Remove the muffin tin from the oven and allow to cool for 5 minutes. Put a clean baking sheet on top of the muffin tin and flip to remove the sticky buns.

In a small bowl, combine 2 containers of the vanilla frosting with the cinnamon 1 to 2 teaspoons of milk. Mix until very thick and of pourable consistency. Drizzle over buns and serve.